6 Tips on How to ‘Treat Yo Self’ for Maximum Achievement

A few years into my doctoral studies, I began to bog down. I had already completed my foundational coursework which I had enjoyed very much. Each quarter, I felt like I was making consistent progress, and I was getting great feedback in the form of high marks. (Nerd.)

When it came time to start writing my dissertation, the wheels came off for me. I was a bit lost in terms of the overall process, and progress seemed slow. I had completed a few phases, but it had been really tough.

As much as I felt a burning desire to complete my mission, I knew that I needed to jump start my progress. I decided to make a deal with myself. If I could just get to the point where I had completed my research study and had data in hand, I would reward myself by taking my bride on a trip to Turks & Caicos to honor this major milestone.

Dangling that reward helped boost me to the other side of my struggle. Whenever the dissertation process got tough, I imagined how good it was going to feel to soak in that warm sun and stare down into that bluer-than-blue water. It worked really well! A few months later, I graduated on schedule, funny hat and all.

I’m a big believer that intrinsic goals – those goals that are derived from an internal motivating source rather than an external source – make the best goals. After years spent pursuing a variety of goals, I’ve found that setting a few extrinsic rewards for milestones I need to achieve along the way is a fun kicker and a way to keep me on the improvement path.

Consider these 6 tips if you want to make rewards work for you:

  • Make it special. When choosing a goal-related reward, try to choose a memorable activity to do or item to buy. The fact that you’re striving toward a big goal is awesome! Your reward should be, too.
  • Match the reward to the effort. Rewards are great, but don’t overdo them. Try not to treat yourself to a Caribbean vacation for going to the gym one time. Small victories should earn small rewards, but don’t be afraid to splurge following a big win.
  • Mix and match. If you’re pursuing a work goal, your “along-the-way” reward doesn’t have to be work-related. You could schedule a spa treatment or grab some tickets to a sporting event. As long you’ll enjoy the reward, it’s a great candidate.
  • Visualize obtaining the reward. Goals are often a lot of work. If you find that you’re slogging it out, try getting a clear picture of what it will be like to enjoy the reward. All it takes is a quick minute to get re-energized and then get back to work on that goal.
  • Stretch it out. In cases where your goal involves a long-term routine, try to stretch out your rewards. As an example, if you’re pursuing a daily meditation practice, consider rewarding yourself after your 10th successful session. After that, you could reward yourself after your 25th, 50th, and then 100th session.
  • Don’t cheat. If you’ve set something as a reward, don’t partake in it unless you’ve done the goal-related work first. Otherwise, you run the risk of watering down what real achievement requires.

You know your reward is working when your mindset and behavior are positively impacted by the thought of earning it. The bigger goal achievement is what matters most, but that doesn’t mean you can’t find and celebrate little wins along the way.

A Work|Life Warrior looks for every edge in the pursuit of victory. Could a simple reward system give you an unfair advantage when it comes to achieving your goals?

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The Art of the Part Where You Start

This past weekend, I found myself attending a high school poetry recital. Having forgotten my trusty hip flask back at home, I resigned myself to what was sure to be a yawnfest.

My youngest daughter was selected as a regional finalist for this year’s Poetry Out Loud program. Billed as a “National Recitation Contest”, Poetry Out Loud includes a cavalcade of awkward teens from all 53 U.S. states and territories. Each contestant chooses from an approved list of poems, memorizes a few, and performs a dramatic reading in front of an audience of teachers, doting family members, and some random guy who doesn’t know how to silence his iPhone.

Some of the poems were written centuries ago and others are quite contemporary by comparison. Most poems touch on life’s dominant themes – aspiration, war, hope, family, struggle, perseverance, self-doubt, triumph, and other distinctly human phenomena.

As each contestant recited a chosen poem, I was drawn further into the proceedings. I was amazed at the heartfelt renditions put forth by these high schoolers. I was impressed by the participants, but increasingly my mind turned to the artists who had penned these spectacular works. Through these kids, the words of amazing poets including Maya Angelou, Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, Dorothy Parker, and other literary greats came to life.

Inevitably, each poet started his or her work by squaring off against a relentless foe: a blank sheet of paper. To create something from nothing is no meager feat. It humbles the most stalwart among us. Yet each artist began the labor, and each overcame what Steven Pressfield dubbed ‘resistance’ in his epic how-to book The War of Art. Now, the results of these poets’ efforts rang throughout the performance hall where I stood.

The same is true with the practice of goal setting. It can be hard for us to begin. We’re not sure where to start. I’ve known successful and confident achievers who would be reduced to rubble if I were to place a blank sheet of paper in front of them with the simple instruction to write down some of their most pressing life goals.

This combination of poetry and goal-oriented thinking reminded me of one my favorite verses. It comes from John Anster as inspired by Johann Wolfgang von Goethe’s Faust:

Are you in earnest? Seize this very minute –
What you can do, or dream you can, begin it,
Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.

Those artists who seized their opportunity to begin have been rewarded. Their art lives on, in some cases surviving for decades or centuries after they themselves have passed. Some young person – my young person – chose to represent their works based on a deeply personal connection to that poet’s words and their deeper meaning.

Standing in that hall, I was deeply moved. Through those kids, I received these poets’ divinely inspired messages, and I had a chance to reflect on what they meant in my own life. I’m so glad these poets started so I could benefit as a result of their boldness, genius, power, and magic.

If you’re not currently pursuing a goal, please start. Don’t let a blank sheet of paper create an impregnable wall between where you are and that better place where you might be. Swallow hard, and commit to push through the fear, pain, and doubt. Once you find yourself sufficiently motivated by a compelling personal goal, as a Warrior, you must will yourself to take that critical next step and begin it.

Be bold. Open yourself to the greater collective genius. Seize your power to make a lasting difference. Magic is sure to follow.

There’s never been a better time to start than right now.

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